Since I have been sending newsletters more often, I have received many phone calls. It is always valuable to hear from you and share our journeys. Some of you have realized that you never stood up to whoever created havoc in your emotional life, and therefore never got your power back thus permitting the anger to smolder for years.
For others, illness has taken over their lives because sometimes the emotional pain runs deep. Denial is a way to patch up our lives. We rearrange the memories we don’t want to confront. But our bodies react causing us to suffer from anxiety, compulsion, insomnia or we may give in to an addiction like alcohol as another means to forget. But are they the answers?
To connect with my story of transformation as a mirror to your own dysfunction and pain is a step toward healing. Yes we must poke and jab at ourselves to confront our painful memories in order to uncover denial. When we are turning away from the reality of what is or what was; we are just getting further away from living our lives with authenticity. We live in a state of uneasiness.
If I have recovered, you can too. From a state where we face struggle, we take action and then, begin to edge toward healing. We can work at forgiving who has hurt us. We can confront that person. We can write about it in our journal and be aware that person may never change. But when we heal ourselves we find peace. One way to maintain that peace is by creating boundaries.I wish you determination on your path.
I wish you significant discovery in your recovery. As you embrace this new page in your life, I hope the best for you.
The last chapter of my book is all about tools and techniques I have used on myself, and on my clients for the past decades. This last chapter is my gift to the world because life is about being there for one another.
And, if your childhood was peaceful and nurturing, then you have been gifted! Count your blessings and share your love.