The Wrong Side of the Bed
Do we sometimes wake up from the wrong side of the bed? Once in a while, yes. It happens to most of us.
When it occurs, I wonder… why do I feel that way? Why did I say this? Where does my reaction come from? I search.
Why not? It is not because I wake up in a bad mood that I am going to go with it. Why would I? Why would you?
We don’t have to accept it and suffer from it. I refuse a bad mood. Period. It won’t ruin my breakfast with my husband, my morning, or my entire day. Why? Because I want to work through it and let go of whatever doesn’t serve me anymore. What is the process? This is how it goes:
I am in a bad mood because… I woke up like that and I don’t know why. Mmh…
Why? Let’s say, I feel overwhelmed. (Or powerless. Or, clueless. Or angry. Or sad). Mmh…
Why? I have so much to accomplish today and this unexpected event yesterday has added to my list of things-to-do. Mmh…
Why do I feel that way then? I dunno if I can manage everything. And…I have a trip planned in 2 days to top it off. Mmh…
Why do I feel that way? I remember a time when I was overwhelmed and because I didn’t step up to do what I needed to achieve. I was the laughingstock. A colleague told me that I couldn’t do it and watched me fail. It was horrible. I don’t want this to happen. Mmh…
Why am I afraid? Because I don’t want to disappoint my boss. Mmh…
My boss? No, not my boss. Me. Being overwhelmed brings me fear. Mmh…
Why? It reminded me of what had happened on my first job. A long time ago.
Is this relevant to me now? No. The situation is different.… I was thirty years younger then. Inexperienced.
Can I let go of it? Yes! I don’t want this history to affect me anymore. My reaction comes from a painful memory, but it is only a memory. I don’t want this to keep affecting me. Now I understand how my younger self was directing the show. No more.
See? Once we know the reasons why we are in a bad mood, and we realize that the circumstances have changed (we are older, in our power, we don’t have to prove or please to be accepted etc.) we can release the past. And the bad mood.
Usually, there is a connection to the past. Yesterday or thirty years ago, something happens to someone or to us and we felt hurt. We can ignore a bad mood by turning on some uplifting music; the music will shift the energy and the mood will change. However, music will not help us find the reason why at times we just don’t feel like ourselves. I am all for letting go of what doesn’t serve us anymore. Aren’t you?
What is the hardest part for you in keeping balance?
Does your mind’s chatter bring you to places you don’t care to go to? Suddenly, life seems horrible. Or does it get you in a sorry mood?
It has been a privilege to work with so many remarkable clients, you, over the phone.
I believe some of my clients may not been aware I work long distance too.
If what is stopping you from calling and making an appointment with me to release what doesn’t serve you anymore is the distance, know that the distance is not a factor. Working on the phone or via WhatsApp is just the same as sitting in my Tacoma office.
The process above can be done solo. That is why I share it with you. You can help yourself. When we understand, we create and foster a healthier environment. You can use this process in the privacy of your home—in a fragrant bubble bath, in your bed before you get up, or during your favorite evening walk.
Here is another tip: when my mind is serving me a pity-party to deal with, I take ‘Heather’ from Dr. Bach Flower Essences. A pity-party never helps us, on the contrary, it is debilitating.
Just a reminder, when the source of the problem and the answer stem from a past life, or are so deeply buried inside that you do not know how to access the information, then I am here to help you. Sometimes, we need a professional to process and release. I would be honored to serve you. We can harness the fluctuations of the mind.
I like what you are saying and it is so true. This is the time to free ourselves. To do that we need to address whatever is hidden within……bringing all to light which results in, step by step, freeing ourselves to grasp and live our magnificence. Thanks Sylvaine for sharing your wisdom!
Sylvaine Francine says
I love what you wrote. Now is the time! To free ourselves and to bring to light!
Yes, and only us can start the process toward healing. We must be willing…